It happened the first time! So said Alfie who has just turned 13 y/o. It happened at 12. What happened? Glad you asked. I was here waiting for you to do so.
According to the Sun news article, Alfie became a father at 13 y/o. The article stated that he had sex with 15 y/o Chantelle for the first time when he was 12, and she became pregnant. When they found out, they didn’t know what to do. They knew they needed to tell their parents but did not know how to go about doing it. Fear of what they might say or do kept them with this secret. With all that these two at this age had to be dealing with – Alfie, issues surrounding puberty and Chantelle thoughts of turning the magical age of 16, they now had to add the burden of unplanned pregnancy to the list. If you are at this age or if you can remember what it was like at this age, you can probably related.
I must hasten to commend the decision that was made, which is to take the baby full-term and not abort it. We are living in an age that abortion has become the means to end “the inconvenience”. I used the word inconvenience because there are many people who thinks this way. Hope you are not one of them. I know there are other words that are used as well, but lets not get distracted. This baby’s life was spared. I wish this was true for the other millions who are killed each year.
Note: Baby’s Mom – Chantelle, looks like she could be baby’s dad – Alfie’s, mom
There are several interesting things about this article. One of them is Alfie’s dad making the statement that he realizes the need to talk to his son – Alfie, about the “birds and the bees” again. Could this be one of the problems? I’m not suggesting that if he spelled it out to Alfie as best as he could, it would have made a difference. It may have. The issue here is maybe he needs to talk to his son not about the birds and the bees but about penis, vagina, and sexual intercourse. Call it what it is.
Maybe you are reading this article as a parent and you are one who have a difficult time talking to your kids about a topic of this nature, let me hasten to say this: if you don’t someone else will and maybe the someone that will, is not the person you want talking to your child about this issue.
Here it is that this child has now become a father. He doesn’t even know the cost of a diaper. Obviously this child will be raised by the grandparents. I don’t think you would want these children raising this baby. Do they sound like they could? Chantelle – “We didn’t think we would need help from our parents.” Alfie – “I didn’t think about how we could afford it. I don’t really get pocket money …” Are these the words of children or what! Should they be having a baby? Should the baby be placed for adoption? These are tough questions.
If I was to point the finger at anyone, I would point it at Chantelle. She need to get someone who is at least her own age if she wants to have sex. I would almost go as far as to say that she raped him. She took advantage of a little child. She knew better. Someone may ask, “what about the parents?” I’m not sure what they could have done. If they never had clear talks with these kids about sex and developmental issues, then yes, I would also point the finger at them for that part.
If it is as Alfie states that this happened the first time of having sex, it only underscores the fact that staying clear of sexual intercourse is the only sure way to not become mom and dad. In addition, it is the sure way to remain free of STD’s.
Does environment plays a part in all of this? Hmmh! I wonder.
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