my mom is embarrassing me (part 2) … 063008

do you have a parent who embarrasses you by what they do or say or how they dress? some parents today in wanting to be hip are being more ridiculous than ever. they wear clothes that is too young for them. they try to act as if they are a teenager. how ridiculous is that!

some parents do not realize the damage that does to their children especially to teenagers. teens know that their peers make fun of people like that. parents who uses slang that is out of date and they think they are cool. when teens laugh at what they say, they think they are laughing with them and is affirming them in how cool they are. how not true is that.

teens are not looking for teenage parents. they are looking for someone who would show them what it is to be an adult and act that way. is it any wonder that we are hearing about mothers of teenagers who are having sexual trysts with their son or daughter’s friends.

is this a desire to regain youth? is this the “i don’t wanna grow up” generation at its best? why is this so? do you have any answers or thoughts on the matter. i would love to hear what you are thinking.

my mom is embarrassing me in looking for love … 062908

says the thirteen year old daughter of her 42 year old mom – deven trabosh.

deven trabosh has placed an ad on ebay and on craig’s list to try and sell her house in a package deal. in this deal she is also in her own words, “i’m selling love to meet that true love!” her ad has the the heading, “marry a princess lost in america.”

her idea is that the person (she is looking for a husband) would purchase the house for the asking price and then in addition pay an extra $500,000 for her. she said this is not selling herself. if this is not selling herself then somebody please tell me what it is.

is it any wonder her daughter is embarrassed. can you imagine all that her daughter is thinking. her friends may see her as the girl whose mom sold herself for $500 grand. “wow, she must have been desperate!” “couldn’t she have found love some other way?” “is this love?” “can someone purchase love?” “what happens when she is no longer needed, will she have to give the money back?” “how would she feel years from now (if the relationship lasted that long) knowing that the person she is with had to put out that much money to have her?”

these are just a few of the questions people may be asking.

is this one of the ways to find love? would this be “true” love as she is hoping for? can love be bought? is this one of the “foolish” things parents do without thinking of the effect it may have on their children? is this a selfish act on the mom’s part? is the daughter selfish? should the daughter be supportive of her mom’s idea if it does make her happy? should the daughter be embarrassed?

what do you think?

wrong place wrong time wrong people? … 062808

seventeen year old tyler kenneth was shot and killed while at his friend’s house this past thursday. the house was across the street from where he lived. it is believed that the shooting was not random. police believed it could be an intended drive-by directed at the house. is this a case of wrong place wrong time with the wrong people?

in a past blog entry, i related the story of a twelve year old girl who was out with her boyfriend at a park. someone posing as a cop rode up on a bicycle and ordered them to the ground. he told them he would place them under arrest for being at the park at that time. the boyfriend asked to be released to go home to his mom. (see my blog entry for my response). the boyfriend left and went home. the girl was raped. is this a case of the wrong place wrong time with the wrong person?

you may know of other incidents where you probably would conclude – wrong place wrong time wrong people.

have you ever been at the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people? what was that like for you? sometimes one may be at the wrong place at the wrong time but with the right people. maybe you might have been at the right place at the right time but with the wrong people.

sounds confusing?

give me your thoughts

they just don’t get it! … 062606

you have tried and you have tried and you have tried, but to no avail. at least that is what it seems like to you. all the feedback that you receive would suggest that they don’t. what am i talking about?

i’m talking about trying to communicate your feelings, disappointment, expectations, or whatever else to your son or daughter, parents, spouse, or anyone else with whom you have some kind of relationship. it becomes frustrating when you try in different ways, with varied tones, and yet it seem that you are not getting through. you feel like you are talking to a wall sometimes.

you text it! you email it! you send letters! you make phone calls! you make it so clear (you think) yet they don’t get it. you tell them you don’t like something and what do they do, the very thing you said you don’t like them doing or want them to stop doing.

“stop lying” … yes mom /dad, i will but what happens ….

“stop embarrassing me” … ok, i won’t do it again, but what happens …

“leave me alone” … ok, if that is what you want, but what happens …

“keep your room clean” … ok … but what happens …

“turn the lights off” “stop wasting water” “don’t leave dirty dishes in the sink” “don’t leave your clothes on the floor” …

sounds familiar?  you wanna add to the list?

you get the picture ..

the frustrating part is when you seem to get through but then something happens, which indicate to you that they just don’t get it. one thing i do know and that is that person is communicating something to you. do you know what it is or might be?

ever been there?

communicate to the uncommunicatable … 062408

there are times when you are trying to communicate to a teenager when you wonder whether or not you are getting through. their response or lack thereof is for the most part discouraging. you are looking for that one particular response that would suggest that you got through and sometimes even when you do get that, the teen’s action lets the air out of your “balloon”. most times if you are lucky you will get a grunt for a response or that familiar blank stare.

frustrating!

discouraging!

seemingly hopeless!

may i suggest that you do not give up! every wild stallion has to be ridden until he is subdued and become responsive to its rider. so will that seemingly unresponsive teen. make sure you “ride” in love and not out of frustration or anger. keep looking at the big picture. use the “bit” carefully so that you do not cause more harm. pray for wisdom and a change of heart. its through patience and endurance that we obtain the ‘prize”.

any suggestions of how to communicate to the uncommunicatable?

this made my evening @ farewell service … evangel church int’l miami, florida …youth praise team ….062108

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confession … 062108

this morning i was reading my bible in the book of mark chapter 8.  i got to the part where jesus said that he would be ashamed of us if we are ashamed of him.  i underlined those verses even though i have read them many times before.

i was getting ready for the gym after reading the chapter.  i took up a t-shirt that had the nike swish sign on the front with the words “jesus did it” written around it.  i picked up the shirt and then thought about going to the gym and put it back down.  i then proceeded to pick up another shirt which had a soccer ball on it.

as i was about to put on the shirt i felt convicted.  immediately those words came back to me.  i heard the question in my head, “kingsley, are you being ashamed to wear the shirt?  are you ashamed of jesus?”  wow!

guess what i did?  i immediately put the soccer shirt back on my rack and then picked up my jesus did it t-shirt and put it on.  i thought that people wear all kinds of shirt to the gym repping whoever and whatever they want.  why shouldn’t i do the same for the one that i love.

so nuf said.  i wore the shirt.  hey, rep him today!

all i need to know! … 062008

A Sunday School teacher decided to have her young class memorize Psalm 23. She gave them a month to do so. One small boy was particularly excited about the challenge, but he just could not remember the Psalm. After much effort, he could barely get past the first verse. On the day when the youngsters were to recite the Psalm before the congregation, the little boy was extremely nervous. When it was his turn, he stepped up to the microphone, and proudly said, “The Lord is my shepherd – and that’s all I need to know!”

how profound!

sometimes in life that is all you need to know.  when tough times come that’s all you need to know.  when you are in the valley that’s all you need to know.  when you are in the dark that’s all you need to know.  today if you find yourself in situations like the above mentioned or any other kind of situation, remember “the Lord is my shepherd!” and if he is not, invite him to become your shepherd.