in his book “have a new kid by friday”, dr. leman gave 10 tips on helping parents being the parent they ought to be. When parents are willing to step up to the plate and not being a wuss [sic] as he says, then their children would be more willing to conform. This is beneficial for both parents and children. Parents have less stress and are able to manage their emotions more effectively. Children learn discipline, responsibility, proper attitude, behavior, and develop strong character. It becomes a win / win for all.
you can find these in his new book by the same name. Here are the 10 things he mentioned:
10 … be 100% consistent in your behavior … your kid needs to know you mean business
9 … always follow through on what you say you will do … no matter the circumstances, what you say is what you do. never ever back down. don’t be a wuss.
8 … respond, don’t react .. use actions, not words. flying loose with your words will only gain you trouble. so close your mouth, think, and respond to the situation rather than reacting to it.
7 … count to 10 and ask yourself, “what would my old self do in this situation? what should the new me do?”
6 … never threaten your kids … the problem with threats is that our children know we don’t mean them, because we rarely follow through on them.
5 … never get angry … don’t let your children control your moods. the release of tension may feel good temporarily, but look what you’ve done to your child. if and when you get angry, apologize quickly.
4 … don’t give any warnings … your goal is to get your children to listen. listen once, hear what you have to say, and act on it.
3 … ask yourself, “whose problem is this?” don’t own what isn’t yours … you need to keep the ball in your child’s court. don’t take over what she should be doing herself
2 … don’t think the behavior will go away … kids won’t stop misbehaving on their own. they gain too much by it. you have to intercede and administer loving and consistent discipline.
1 … keep a happy face on, even when you want to … do something else
the book make these 10 tips more clearer. i hope this will help you in the parenting of your child.
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