first time sex leads to death … 072808

the miami herald reported that 15 y/o Jason hartley killed 14 y/o neica gibbs after having sex with her. the article went on to say that the two teens fought after their tryst and according to jason, neica fell on the treadmill, hit her head, and got tangled in the cords which led to her strangulation.

his mom reported that jason confessed to her and the police telling them that it was his first time having sex and that neica teased him afterwards. this apparently led to the fight and the eventual death. his mom also reports that jason has an anger problem.

there are other reports surrounding how this all developed, which you can read for yourself.

two families will never be the same again. two young lives are lost, one in physical death and the other, the death of his future goals, dreams, aspirations, etc. obviously they can’t be compared because one is still alive.

we can’t go back and change what has happened. oh how we wished we could. if it was possible to rewind this story and we could have talked with these two teens, what would we have told them. i know i would have talked about sex issues; definitely helped jason with his anger issues; helped neica with self-esteem or self-worth issues … what else would you have helped them with?

i put myself in the shoes of both families and i don’t know how i would react. possibly angry at what has happened as well as with self – blaming self for where i might have gone wrong. i must commend jason’s mom for turning her son into the police as well as making the statement that jason’s actions deserve whatever the consequences that comes with it. she said something important and that is her parents taught her that principle. how many parents are teaching such to their kids today?

here are the mother’s words: ”He’s going to pay a price for it,” she said. “I was always taught, and believe, when you do wrong, you’ve got to pay a price for it.”

what do we do now? i believe both families need to seek out professional counseling through their church or with a christian counseling center. why christian? well a christian counselor can help the families by combining the comfort from the Bible along with his /her professional training to offer help. the spiritual component is a must in situations like these. the help of god must be invoked.

forgiveness has to be requested and offered. who knows more about this than jesus christ. he has left us with his teachings on the matter and the necessity of it.

as you ponder this, keep both sets of families in your prayers.

read the teachings of jesus below.

Matt 18:21-35

21 Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. 23 “For this reason the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his slaves. 24 “When he had begun to settle them, one who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him. 25 “But since he did not have the means to repay, his lord commanded him to be sold, along with his wife and children and all that he had, and repayment to be made. 26 “So the slave fell to the ground and prostrated himself before him, saying, `Have patience with me and I will repay you everything.’ 27 “And the lord of that slave felt compassion and released him and forgave him the debt. 28 “But that slave went out and found one of his fellow slaves who owed him a hundred denarii; and he seized him and began to choke him, saying, `Pay back what you owe.’ 29 “So his fellow slave fell to the ground and began to plead with him, saying, `Have patience with me and I will repay you.’ 30 “But he was unwilling and went and threw him in prison until he should pay back what was owed. 31 “So when his fellow slaves saw what had happened, they were deeply grieved and came and reported to their lord all that had happened. 32 “Then summoning him, his lord said to him, `You wicked slave, I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. 33 `Should you not also have had mercy on your fellow slave, in the same way that I had mercy on you?’ 34 “And his lord, moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers until he should repay all that was owed him. 35 “My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart.”